How To: Visit a College with Your Kids!
For parents, visiting a college isn’t easy. How involved do you get? Should you make the phone calls? What if you son or daughter wants to visit a college that you don’t think should be on the list?
Those are great questions and My College Guide is here for you, as we have been for more than twenty years!
How To Visit a College with Your Kids
It’s okay to let your son and daughter take the reigns this time. When it comes to choosing a college, let them know they have your support (and that you don’t mind helping if needed). Let him or her call the college to find out about visiting times. See if there’s a big group session. Although it is not the place to ask questions, it is a good start to getting to know a college.
Follow a Friend
Know someone else who has attended a college that interests your son or daughter? Connect them! Let your child hear about the school from someone who has been there and done that. When it comes time to visit the school, having a little background knowledge from someone in the know may help them feel a little more confident about the experience overall.
Go with the Flow
If your child takes one look at a school and doesn’t even want to get out of the car, don’t push it. The point of the college campus visit is to get a feel for a school. If the first impression even before the tour just isn’t jiving with your child’s idea of college, then let it be. There are tons of other schools out there! Stay calm and go with plan B, whatever that is!
Okay, so you don’t necessarily need to be a wall flower, but try not to take over for your teen either. When you arrive at the college admissions office or are seeing the on-campus sites, don’t feel like you need to do all the talking. Give your teen time to get comfortable and ask questions. They may surprise you!
It can be easy to jump in and want to do it all, particularly if your child is dragging a bit and you are more proactive! Have your teen choose which schools need to be visited and why, while you handle the out the how.
Just remember: your son or daughter will be the one spending four years here! Just because a college doesn’t match up with your ideal doesn’t mean it isn’t the right fit for your teen. Try to keep that in mind during the process! And don’t worry–they still need you. Try to maintain your patience so they feel like they can come to you with help or with questions!