Especially For Parents: What Type of Parent Coach Are You Part 2.
Last week, we introduced four of the most common Parent College Coach types – and their strengths and weaknesses. Today, we’ll discuss the last three types of parent coaches.
By identifying your parent coaching style, you can help reduce the stress in your household and assure your senior will have a positive college admissions process. Read on to find out more!
5. The “I’ll think about that tomorrow” parent college coach
This is the worst time in your teen’s life for you to model or encourage procrastination. The next four years can be daunting and even overwhelming, but if you approach them without planning and organization, you will never survive.
The problem with this philosophy is that it won’t work with deadlines, and the college maze is all about the deadlines. If you miss them, there are no second chances or do-overs. Not only do you risk missing the deadlines, as this type of parent you add extra stress to an already stressful time. Preparation and organization are keys to overcoming procrastination.
Thinking about it tomorrow will only lead to frustration, disappointment, and regret.
6. The “uninvolved” parent college coach
Your teen still requires your input. They may protest greatly and say loudly, “I can do it myself.” But what they really mean is I want to do it with your support and help.
If you make the mistake of turning the whole process over to your teen, the odds are great that they will become overwhelmed and frustrated to the point of giving up.
There are so many decisions to be made and things to keep track of during senior year. If you have a tendency to be an uninvolved parent, your teen will most likely feel abandoned in a sea of forms, applications and deadlines.
It’s great to expect them to be responsible, but you and I both know that teenagers will be teenagers. Their minds and lives are headed in hundreds of different directions and staying on task can sometimes be inconceivable. It’s your goal to steer them back on course and help them reach their final goal.
7. The “well-balanced” parent college coach
The well-balanced parent utilizes the best organizational tools to help their college-bound teen stay
focused and on track. This is the type of parent coach we should all strive to become.
You balance coaching, encouragement and guidance with information gathering, organization and goal setting. Your teen does not stress about deadlines because you have sat down together and created a calendar of upcoming scholarship applications, college entrance tests, activities, and school related events.
You and your teen are confident and aware of the course you have set together and assured that because you are prepared and organized, the end result will be that your senior is able to reach their goal of college acceptance.
You have planned ahead concerning the financial process and have utilized all the tools available to assure an impressive financial aid award package from the colleges where applications are submitted. You coach without pushing, pressuring or stressing out and your teen knows that they have your support and can look to you for positive feedback.
These are the most common types of parent college coaching styles. Do you recognize yourself? If so, good! After all, knowledge is power – and now you know what your strengths and weaknesses are – and how to make the most of them.
Author: Suzanne Shaffer counsels parents in the college admissions process and the importanceof early college preparation. Her Parents Countdown to College Coach blog offers timely college tips for parents and provides parents with the resources necessary to help their college-bound teens navigate the college maze. She is also a member of the Unigo ExpertNetwork, a College Money Insider Expert and the College Coach for Galtime.com.